Why Domestic Violence Victims Stay in Abusive Relationships: Part One

Abusive relationships are not few and far between. According to the Huffington Post, 29% of women, ages 18-35, have been in abusive relationships. Of that 29%, 62% have been shoved, slapped, or hit, and 33% have been strangled or choked. A surprising 11% of that group stated they were presently in abusive relationships, in which the person believed she would be brutally harmed or even killed. These statistics are meant to shock and scare you. Abusive relationships are not something to be down-played or toyed with lightly. According to DomesticAbuseShelter.org, “Battering is the single major cause of injury to women, exceeding rapes, muggings and auto accidents combined.” They go on to say that “On average, a woman will leave an abusive relationship seven times before she leaves for good.” Although these statistics are staggering, they point to one major conclusion. It is never too late to leave an abusive relationship. Women often return to abusive relationships, but it is worth it to keep trying to leave until you are gone for good. Here are reasons why women stay in abusive relationships and why they are not valid reasons to stay.

Has Fear of Homelessness

The victim may believe that she will be homeless if the she leaves, as she may be financially dependent on the abuser. “Even if I were to leave,” the victim might think, “I would have nowhere to go.” There are shelters for battered women if nothing else. A simple search on a search engine will reveal shelters near by, by typing in, “Shelters for Battered Women.”

Has Fear of Abuser

The abuser may threaten the victim that if she leaves, the abuser will come after her. Threats can be violent and deadly serious. These threats can keep a partner in an abusive relationship for fear of physical and emotional harm. There are legal resources for battered women to keep them safe. Here is some information on what is available to you. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

Has Fear of Asking for Help

The victim may feel as though no one will be there for her in her time of need. “Even if they were here for me, they would probably be judgmental,” the victim might think. This type of thinking leads to self-isolation. It is worth taking the chance that you may be judged. It is either that or you keep getting abused. Reaching out for help is pivotal to saving your life and your quality of life.

Part Two will be up on the blog next month! Stay tuned for more reasons why people stay in abusive relationships and what resources are available to them who need help!